[agreed] I say fuck that shit, go for the things you want now. Sure, you can worry about the guy along the way - I know you will - but you have to go for a life that looks good to you without waiting for someone's help or approval to get it. [/agreed]

[caveat]You do need to be honest, brutally honest, in exactly the way you are speaking of, with the person that you are dating/sleeping with/romantically involved.[/caveat]

Sorry, been burned. But, otherwise, nice post. It's nice to see others thinking through relationships and involvement and not being blase about it.